A Letter to My Body: From Loathing to Love
- SK Carr
- May 18
- 4 min read
Updated: Jul 28
For years, I struggled to be at peace with my body. This letter is a love note to the parts of me I once rejected, and a reflection of what it means to come home to myself. I hope it reminds you of the love that’s possible within your own body too.
A Letter To My Body
For these past three years, it's been about you and me. A conscious relationship I’ve been working to build. It’s been slow and steady, doing my best to love you and embrace you and to be at peace with you and us. It’s been a mindful practice of learning to collaborate and partner with you. It hasn't been easy, and I haven't been perfect, but it has been working as I’ve slowly let go of my old ways of relating to you. I’m doing my best to work with you and not against you. To love you instead of hate you. To honor you and not disregard you.
You have always been there for me even when I wasn’t there for you. You took me across the world on exchange for a year at the age 16. You were with me when I ran marathons, when I hiked mountains and when I walked ocean shores. You have been there when we weighed more. You have been there when we weighed less.
You have stayed true to me through heartache and love, embracing those I have loved and letting go of those that no longer served me. You were with me the day we stepped out of the car and he knew we’d become his wife. You held his hand as we said I do. You wrapped your arms around him as we kissed and danced as husband and wife.
Your hands held the hands of your mother as she shared her final conversations. They moisturized her face and touched her arms as she lived her final days. They held the hand of your husband as you walked the aisle at her funeral and hugged the friends and family who loved you and her both.
You have been by my side as my mind has expanded. You carried my heart as it learned to soften and love. You bore the weight of my walls and barriers before I took them down to become vulnerable and available. You have been with me as I have worked to brighten my aura and my spirit. You have watched it all while quietly waiting for your turn to collaborate. Waiting for me to see, acknowledge and partner with you in the same way. You have been patient with me and have loved me despite my rejections of you. You embraced me even when I loathed you.
And so I stand before you. I am here. Finally here. I reach out my hand in partnership. Let us be friends and not adversaries. Together we have a man and a husband who loves and adores us. Who loves you just as you are and supports us in our journey together. He has helped bring me to you. His love of you has taught me to love you too. The way he holds and embraces the parts of you I struggled to loving hold on my own. He did it for us when I could not. I am grateful for him and for his teachings to me for you. Thank you for always loving me.
Thank you for always being there for me. Thank you for not giving up on me. I am learning to be present with us both. I am learning to quiet the part of me that resisted our collaboration. The part of me that wanted to keep us separate. The part of me that wanted to keep the wholeness of you segmented into thin you and not thin you. Forgive me for my ignorance. Forgive me for my demands, forgive me for my expectations and impatience. I am here to hold your hand. Let us walk side by side as we move to where we will go together.
I promise to love you day by day. I promise to no longer put demands on you as you have never put them onto me. Thank you for your love, your patience, your persistence and your pursuit of us. I am here, and I let go. It’s your turn to take the lead.
With all my love,
Sara Kate
If you’ve ever struggled to befriend your body, I invite you to write your own letter. Just one honest letter from exactly where you are right now. You don’t have to have it all figured out. Let this be a starting point. You can always return to the page, again and again, as your relationship evolves. Healing is a dialogue, and your body is ready to listen.
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Since writing this letter, my journey has continued to evolve. I recently shared a post called Healing Body Image, Diet Culture, and the Shadow of Control—a reflection on how my relationship with my body has shifted from shame to neutrality to sacred embodiment. If you’re exploring what it means to feel safe in your skin, to reclaim your sensuality, and to trust your body again, you’ll want to read this next chapter.
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