A Birthday Reflection on Self-Trust and Personal Year Numerology
- SK Carr
- Nov 8, 2025
- 9 min read
Updated: Nov 17, 2025
Date Nite turned one this week, and in a way, so did I. One year ago, two days before my birthday, I launched the vision I’d been holding. The idea had lived in my heart for nearly two years, tugging at me quietly but persistently. I knew it was meant for us, but I didn’t know how to start, and that uncertainty kept me waiting longer than I’d like to admit.
Then in April of 2024, while visiting my dear friend Erica in California for Kevin’s birthday, something shifted. We call that week the week of church. Long conversations, deep spiritual talks, and lots of reflection. Somewhere in the middle of it all, I knew it was time to start. I didn’t have all the answers, but I had the clarity and conviction, and that was enough.
So, I bought the KevinandKate.com domain. My friend suggested I make the name more specific to Date Nite, but that wasn't right for me. Kevin and Kate gave us a larger umbrella to grow into, and a space that could evolve with us if needed. It didn’t box us in, and that freedom felt right from the start.
I came home from that trip and gave myself one rule: it doesn’t have to be perfect to start. I let myself play, explore, and tinker. I built the site by experimenting and learning as I went. Every page, every system, and every tweak was self-taught, not from YouTube tutorials, but from curiosity, persistence, and a willingness to keep going and learning.
What helped me most were the three permissions I gave myself:
Permission to play.
Permission to evolve.
Permission to not be perfect.
Those three details became the antidote to fear and perfectionism. They allowed me to move from waiting to doing.
I had one goal: launch Date Nite by November 9th, my birthday. I knew this would mark my transition into a Personal Year 1 and the start of a brand new nine year cycle in numerology. Every ending (a 9 year) invites a new beginning (a 1 year). That awareness gave me even more courage because it was divine timing.
I was closing one energetic chapter and opening another. I didn’t just launch a business that day. I launched myself.
Year 46: The Foundation Year
If you’ve followed me for any time, you know I believe our creative work mirrors our soul’s evolution. Year 46, my Personal Year 1, was all about foundation. Brick by brick, idea by idea to build both a brand and a backbone.
About six months into the launch, I also signed up for a basic marketing course to strengthen my business skills and expand my understanding of online growth. It was the perfect next step, education meeting experience. I slowly built the bones of something I loved, one piece at a time.
This past year, I showed up for Date Nite the same way I hope others will show up for their own dreams: consistently, faithfully, and with vision over perfection. I learned how to keep going even when growth was slow. I learned that visibility doesn’t happen overnight, and neither does mastery. My dedication to the vision and the calling kept me going.
I just recently crossed 500,000 monthly Pinterest impressions and over 12,000 monthly outbound clicks to our website. But those numbers mean more to me as evidence of trust than success. They’re proof that showing up consistently, without rushing the outcome works.
The Synchronicity of Timing
I launched Date Nite on November 7, 2024, just two days before my birthday. I wanted it out in the world before I officially stepped into my new year. Later, I calculated that date and discovered it adds to 17/8, the exact number I carry as my soul urge number in numerology.
Eight in numerology represents prosperity, material success, ambition, and the disciplined work ethic required to build lasting structures. It’s a number of power and manifestation, where inner alignment meets tangible results. Seventeen carries that energy even further. Often called a legacy or wealth code, it amplifies the vibration of leadership, legacy, and purpose-driven achievement. Those with this influence are here to create something that endures, something that benefits others long after them.
So when I realized the launch date aligned perfectly with that same frequency, I smiled, because time and time again, my life has aligned like this. Synchronicity has always been my language with the universe. The more aware you become, the more you see it everywhere.
Moving Into a Personal Year 2
If Year 1 is about independence and initiation, Year 2 is about partnership, collaboration, patience, and flow. It’s a transition from new or foundational effort to alignment. From structure to softness. From doing to being.
This year, my focus is on connection, with my audience, my community, my body, my spirit, and my husband. Connection will be my compass.
Year 2 is about harmony, receptivity, and trust in divine timing. It asks us to tend what we’ve planted rather than rushing toward the next big thing. That feels exactly right for me right now.
This next season is about continuing the foundational work I began in Year 1 while evolving it through connection, collaboration, and embodiment. I want to honor and expand what’s already been built by allowing new forms of partnership and creativity to flow. In my business, that looks like inviting more collaboration, shared energy, and creative community. In my personal life, it means deepening my connection with Kevin, my friendships and family connections, and most importantly, continuing to come home to my body.
I’ve also realized that connection can look like play, a return to curiosity, creative experimentation, and joy. I want to continue to allow my creative playfulness to lead the way this year, to let curiosity and inspiration guide how I work, move, and express myself. I want to say yes to the things that feel alive in my body and spirit and let that vitality shape what I create next.
For most of my life, I’ve been deeply connected to my thoughts, spirit, intuition, and surroundings. But my body always came last. This year, that changes. My devotion in this new Personal Year 2 is to my physical connection, listening to my body, honoring her signals, and treating her as a partner in creation, not just a vessel that carries me.
The Hill Climbs and the Body
Most days now, I walk the hill near our apartment. No music, no podcasts, just me, my body, and mindfulness. These hill climbs are becoming a kind of moving meditation, a ritual of devotion and reminder that strength builds through consistency, not force, the very thing I have learned over these past twelve months.
Each climb represents something: trust, patience, connection, discipline, and embodiment, a theme I leaned this year with a twist. Embodiment.
I'm calling this act my five climbs to freedom. It grounds me in the physical truth that progress isn’t instant, but it’s inevitable when you show up for yourself again and again.
It’s funny how the body always tells the truth before the mind catches up. This past year, I realized that my body is part of my business’s foundation too. Mindfulness around food, movement, and energy has become the missing piece in my prosperity puzzle.
As a Generator in Human Design, my energy only thrives when something lights me up, when it’s a full-body yes. I’m learning this doesn’t only apply to my creative and professional work, but also to the food I choose to eat, the exercise I do, and even the rest I allow. I’ve learned to ask myself: Does this make me feel alive, grounded, excited, or drained? That simple question is changing everything. Taking a few minutes to tap in and ask if something is a full-body yes is transforming me.
From Doing to Trusting
If last year was about the foundational work of starting and doing, what a Personal Year 1 represents, this next chapter is about feeling and connection, the essence of a Personal Year 2. I spent this past year of 46 showing myself that I could build something. Now I get to tend to it and let it breathe.
The biggest lesson I learned this year was to trust my own inner guidance system. To stop looking for external validation before moving. To know that when the vision comes to me, I can trust it.
Sometimes I made changes on the website that others might not have understood. I didn’t overthink it. I trusted my direction. I’ve always navigated life differently, but I finally stopped playing small or apologizing for that. If I hold the vision, I hold the authority. That’s been one of the most empowering realizations I've received this year.
I now carry that permission with me forward, forever. The permission to trust myself fully and act on what feels aligned, even if no one else gets it yet.
Your Invitation: Understanding Your Own Personal Year in Numerology
If you’d like to understand your own personal year numerology, here’s how to calculate it:
Take your birth month and birth day.
Add them to the year of your most recent birthday.
If your birthday has already passed this year, use 2025.
If your most recent birthday was last year, use 2024.
Keep adding the digits until you get a single number (1 through 9), unless you land on a Master Number (11, 22, or 33).
Example 1:
If your birthday is November 9, you’d calculate:1 + 1 + 9 + 2 + 0 + 2 + 5 = 20 → 2 + 0 = 2.
You’re in a Personal Year 2.
Example 2:
If your birthday is December 15, and your most recent birthday was in 2024:1 + 2 + 1 + 5 + 2 + 0 + 2 + 4 = 17 → 1 + 7 = 8.
You’re in a Personal Year 8.
Each personal year holds its own energetic signature:
Beginnings – new starts, independence, leadership, the masculine energy of doing.
Partnership – connection, patience, emotional growth, the feminine energy of listening and trusting.
Creativity – self-expression, communication, joy.
Foundation – discipline, work ethic, stability and structure, building things the right way.
Change – freedom, adventure, reinvention and the five senses.
Responsibility – love, family, service, balance.
Mind and Spirit – logic, tech, spirituality, inner wisdom, solitude.
Power – money, success, legacy, manifestation.
Completion – release, endings, humanitarian and international purpose.
Reflection Prompts for Your Personal Year
Take a few moments to calculate what personal year you're in right now and what year is coming next. Then sit to journal or meditate on these:
Where have I noticed this year’s themes showing up in my life?
Am I resisting or embracing the energy of my current year?
How might I align more deeply with what this cycle is teaching me?
What do I want to bring forward into my next personal year?
The more aware you become of these rhythms, the more aligned your actions feel. You begin to recognize divine timing for what it is: an invisible order already working in your favor.
Closing Birthday Reflection
This birthday reflection marks a moment of deep gratitude for the lessons this cycle has taught me and the trust I’ve built along the way.
This past year, I reiterated to myself that I can do anything I set my mind to and built something from nothing, but this time I did it in spite of and alongside my fears. I also learned that how I build matters just as much as what I build.
Faith, intuition, and trust are the new metrics for success in my life. I’m no longer trying to force the perfect structure or prove anything to anyone, including myself. Instead, I’ll let my creative playfulness lead the way, allowing curiosity, inspiration, and joy to guide my next steps. I’m creating space for spontaneity, for new ideas to unfold naturally, and for my work and my spirit to expand without pressure or rigidity. To me, this feels like a true arrival and a grounded sense of coming home to myself and everything I’ve been creating.
Connection will be my compass moving forward into this next year. I’ll keep climbing the hill, step by step, listening to my body, my spirit, and the quiet rhythm of my own timing and knowing.
And maybe that’s the point of all of this: to remember that what we build through love and awareness will always last.
Other Posts You May Also Enjoy Reading
If you loved this reflection, you might also enjoy:
The Power of Holding a Vision: Reflections on Love, Calling, and Becoming— on trusting divine timing and building something that lasts.
The Strength in Sensitivity: Finding Power in Feeling Deeply — on how our softness becomes our greatest source of strength.
About Date Nite with Kevin & Kate
Date Nite began as a weekly ritual between my husband and me, one night each week set aside to slow down, cook a beautiful meal, and reconnect. It’s now grown into a weekly subscription experience that includes curated dinner menus, cocktails, playlists, and more designed to bring connection back to the table.
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